It’s a new year and with that comes the collective optimism associated with a clean slate. However, it’s widely known that most New Year’s resolutions don’t survive. Within weeks (if not days), the declarations fade in intensity as most of us will settle back into known routines.
For some, though they laugh it off, guilt sets in as they count it as personal failure. However, there is no failure if one makes the choice to begin again. To engage your inner fire and try again to do what’s best for you is always victorious. Beyond all resolutions, is one that matters most.
Through challenges, we test the limits of our courage and strength. However, we have a tendency to think of pain as the “best” teacher. What we are subconsciously telling ourselves is that, life must be hard if we are to learn anything.
While our painful experiences hold valuable lessons, pain does not have a monopoly on wisdom. The lessons you learn from joy can be just as transformative.
Pain inherently gets our attention, but with growing consciousness, one can remain attentive regardless of the state.
Remember, joy isn’t an empty reprieve. Wisdom resides there, too.
Ideally, the majority of time would be spent in the space of joy while intermittently attending to necessary tasks.
Unfortunately, many of us have our lives set up in a way that disregards our needs. We spend a lot of time taking care of tasks before we can attend to ourselves. These joyless patterns keep us distant from our well-being. They keep us out of flow.
Look closely at the disruptors in your life. Where can you be more efficient or ask for help? How can you minimize your time in that state or can you cut it out altogether?
Alternatively, is it possible to find or insert joy into the disruption? Is there a hidden upside or can you add an activity that makes it enjoyable? (For example, business meetings that take place during a walk in the park.)
How creative and dedicated can you be about spending more time in flow than not?
An odd thing happened the other day. In the midst of a snow storm, a flock of robins decided to take up temporary residence on my street. They sang loudly, kept diving at steep angles, and seemed to be enjoying themselves as the snow steadily came down. The juxtaposition of the spring-like joy in the middle of winter spoke loud and clear. (You can see them in action here.)
This was a reminder to enjoy yourself despite the circumstances. It’s possible to draw upon whatever your true nature is to find your delight. Waiting on external cues may not be in your favor. Once you’re able to cultivate that elation within, you’ll never be at the mercy of what goes on around you.