Loneliness is a common experience. However, we often try to cure it with company-sometimes good, sometimes not. The quest for belonging is a basic need but we must have discernment when reaching for connection.
But beyond the comfort of belonging is the peace that comes from knowing you can always rest in the Divine. When you are reminded of this eternal union, then loneliness is less gripping. Your peace is independent of whether others are available to quell the longing or not.
People bond to each other in any number of ways. But of those ways, how many are destructive?
In the same way individuals can connect through genuine love or affection, people can connect through anger, through complaining, or through cynicism. Negativity feeds off of negativity and the charge one may feel can be addictive.
We all experience the spectrum of emotion and have variant personalities, but when a connection requires you to maintain a particular negative state, it’s time to re-examine.
We all crave connection but what type are you truly cultivating?
Your deepest secrets can feel like restraints. They keep you from inhabiting the fullness of the person you long to be.
But the irony of the secret is that it contains the liberation you desperately seek. When you find the appropriate safe space and have the courage to share, liberation is found.
In that willingness to divulge, connection is created with the trusted witness as well as a deeper connection with self. In addition, a bridge is built for the next person to cross with their own disclosure.
Will you remain bound or will you bond? The only difference is “u.”
Some days, you’re more attuned than others. Sometimes, it’s a moment to moment affair. And in those times when attunement wavers, comes the experience of worry, doubt, fear, envy, insecurity, boredom, stagnancy, unhappiness and even hatred.
Consider each of these states nothing more than a craving for connection.
Whether in the form of connecting to another human or nature or one’s own creativity, there’s a recurrent call to commune with spirit. Time and time again, you will be urged to remember your Divinity by recognizing it where it lives inside and outside of you.
You know those moments when you feel so full of life you could just burst? The buzz can stick around for a while and you feel invigorated.
We love to feel that sense of aliveness.
Unfortunately, we sometimes engage in destructive behavior that also feeds the fire. Anger, jealousy, even worry are fuels of a different nature. Or ever see someone light up when they’re participating in gossip? Watch how the energy spreads
when others -or yourself- latch onto that energy.
These behaviors are poor substitutes for the engagement we seek.
Pay attention to how you’re feeding your own fire.